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Honesty
« Thread Started on May 15, 2006, 2:13pm »

Honesty...such a simple word. I'm sure one might wonder why I would wanna write about something that we are all familiar with. Because we are all ALWAYS honest and everyone is ALWAYS the same with us, right? What a joke if you actually believe that. I, myself, am tired of people talking about being real and keeping it real and they are always real. People need to stop fooling themselves. Noone will appreciate you more if you are truly upfront about who you are, what you do and what is important to you. For the most part, people can see through your BS so why are you dishing it out? Be honest with yourselves and those around you. Women always swear that no matter what they want a good man and they know how to treat their man. Let's be honest...every woman doesn't want a man and there is nothing wrong with that. Every woman does not know how to treat their man, nothing is wrong with that and every woman, for whatever reason, doesn't even want a good man. People are more willing to work with you and be around you if you just admit the truth. You swear you know how to treat your man but as soon as he is down, what do you do, you keep him there. What kind of woman does that? And if you really knew how to treat your man, would you do that? Asking for help does not make you less of a person and people need to realize that. If anything a true person will appreciate you more if you are willing to admit that you don't know it all and help would be nice. It's sad but I feel that a lot of people have forgotten what it means to be honest. We are way too caught up in what everyone else thinks about us, being liked and saying what someone else defines as the right thing. If you like something but you feel as if others won't...so what...do your thing! Be happy with who you are and honest with yourself and others you will feel so much better in the long run...

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Re: Honesty
« Reply #1 on May 16, 2006, 1:24pm »

THAT IS DEFINITELY REAL TALK !!!!!!!

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« Reply #2 on May 17, 2006, 10:24pm »

This is very true- people like putting on shows for others and really at times do not know how to keep it real. I perfer to hang out with people that just let their hair down and be themselves with no surprises - that way i know that this is who they are from the get go. This is true all women do not want the same things and their alot of women that do not know a good thing when they have it. As for women when it comes to our men- some of us forget the basic factor - that we was made to be helpmates to men - it in the bible- we are suppose to support and stand behind our men in all areas in their lives- through the good times and even when they are at their lowest. However some of us use the times when our men are down to keep kicking them cause of our own pains that we may feel for other things- no one perfect but if you really want your man to see that you are good woman - u do not have to show off and be some body that you are not- i guarantee that a man is more appreciative to know that you will stand behind him when all the rest turn their back on him and do not judge him but encourage him in anything in his dreams and goals in life and he will see what you are doing for him and do the same for you -always remember it takes one to teach one- and we can always learn something from others when we actually ask for help cause we do not know it all and humble ourselves to know that. Alot of us act like we have to know it all- but we really dont need to know it all - what we need to know is how to pass the torch to others so that they shine also. I tell you this much - i am not ashame to ask for help and learn from others - the person i am today is cause of all the people in my life who i have learned from.

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IS HONESTY ALWAYS THE BEST POLICY??
« Reply #3 on Jan 18, 2007, 2:28pm »

Everyone’s always told you that honesty is the best policy, every time. But have you ever encountered a situation where being totally honest backfired? Is there such a thing as being too honest? Find out if your honesty motto is helping or hurting your relationships and when those little white lies are appropriate.

Don’t get me wrong. Honesty is essential in every relationship. But too much of it can be a bad thing. It will mostly backfire on you when the intent doesn’t benefit the greatest good. To put it more simply: Honesty may not always be the best policy if you’re burdening someone with information that they would be better off not knowing. And using the old “But I was just being honest” shtick doesn’t exempt you from the damage you may cause. So know when it’s best to be honest and best to be discreet. Here are 5 common scenarios where honesty may not always be the best policy:

“Honey, does my butt look big?”
Women are always asking their partners if they look fat. You want your guy to be honest, but you don’t want to hear the truth. So why did you ask! If your guy is smart, he knows he shouldn’t tell you about the unsightly bulge those jeans are creating. So follow suit. If your guy asks you how his new haircut looks, and you hate it, spin it positively. Tell him you prefer it the other way, and that it’s just hair. If you’re unsatisfied with your partner’s weight gain, it’s OK to let him know you’re not happy by encouraging and motivating him. But it’s not OK to berate him.

“I hate to be the bearer of bad news…”
Your best friend’s husband is having an affair. Do you tell her or stay out of it? On the one hand, you want to protect your friend, and on the other hand it’s a very private matter. Our answer – If you’re 100% sure about the affair and your friend’s hubby plans on walking out on the family or continues the affair, you need to protect your friend by telling her, especially if she has children. If as far as you know the affair is a one-time thing, it’s probably better to be quiet. Their marriage is private, even from a best friend. And maybe she might be aware of it anyway, and would be embarrassed if you knew about it, too.

“Do you know what they’re saying about you?”
You’re probably guilty of gossiping yourself, but what happens when you overhear gossip about someone you love? Should you tell him or her what is being said? The general answer to this question regarding honesty is no. Gossip is usually petty and stems from jealousy or pure boredom. If what is being said about your friend is minor and harmless, then why tell him or her at the risk of hurting feelings for no good reason (which you know it will)? If the gossip involves something that could be damaging to your loved on, then by all means share what you know. You’re probably doing a service to him or her by being honest and allowing the chance to clear up the rumors.

“That’s so not my parenting style!”
You don’t agree with the parenting style of someone you know. Maybe he or she is too lax or too unbending. Do you have a right to say something? Unless that person is using a parenting style that is harmful or dangerous to the health and well-being of the child, stay out of it. In general, people are very protective of their children and take criticisms about their parenting very personally. Just because it’s not your parenting style doesn’t mean it’s not good enough. If they ask for advice, go ahead and give it. Otherwise, zip it.

“What was your youth like?”
At one time or another, parents are always asked by their teenagers about their own adolescence. Kids want a way to humanize and relate to their parents. But say your childhood was less than model citizen, and you’d never want your kids to make the same mistakes as you did. It’s actually better for your child to withhold most of the details about those formative years. Instead of learning from you, they might use it as a way to justify their own bad behaviors. You can give them a general response, but avoid details they simply don’t need to know about. Better yet, wait until they’re old enough to share your experiences with them.

You’ll probably be asked this question by your mate regarding your dating history. In this case, it’s also best to give general information about old boyfriends. Too many details can breed mistrust, jealousy and anger, not to mention your guy doesn’t really want to hear the juicy details. In the case of past relationships, your past is your own. Unless it’s something that directly affects the future of your relationship, keep it to yourself.

Keep this advice in mind the next time a similar situation like the ones mentioned crops up. Recognize the difference between being brutally honest and being truthful. Be aware of those times when being honest would needlessly hurt someone. George Carlin once said, “Honesty may be the best policy, but it’s important to remember that apparently, by elimination, dishonesty is the second-best policy.” So whatever your take on the “Honesty is the best policy” motto, don’t forget about another not long-forgotten quote: “Ignorance is bliss.”

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